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Motherhood affluent love beautiful mother happy childhood her daughter Vtdallalha and choose her clothes, and the recent exchange with love, with all that responsive posed by them, and all of a sudden, and that the passing years
Childhood and teenage years begins to learn her mother's daughter dress style and choice of models, which suits her age, and the result: mother finds herself unable to accommodate the evolution of the fashion Kantha adolescence, Ventabha feeling jealous of them, is jealous of your daughter?
University introduced «Temple Aoneversaty» U.S. state of Philadelphia statistical included more than 100 mothers and 200 teenage daughter, and found that 18% of these mothers felt jealous of the teenage daughters, and expressed their non-accept Nsaúhan when choosing their clothes ... Why all this?
Great shock
Once up the girl to the threshold of adolescence and feel Bndjha a female beautiful, and begin to look for love and attention in the eyes of her household, according to Chancellor social Najla Mahfouz: waiting for her mother specifically to receive the words of praise and admiration for the qualities gentle and features beautiful.
The feelings of jealousy felt by the mother and Thsha adolescence is a shock painful to both parties; mother here deprives itself of establishing a good relationship together with her daughter a bigger front of her, and imprisons itself and in full will and behind the bars of negative emotions, and thus let her daughter live in a state of emotional deprivation center of her home and its people.
'Make-up' hair and rolls
It is a reality experienced by Najla cases she had seen either jealous of her daughter whenever she saw take care of the hair or stand in front of the mirror, she said to her: 'You're not pretty! And sometimes they receive cosmetics and hair rolls away!
I heard the story of a mother who insisted that you buy for themselves, such as clothes that to her daughter 'bride', which is preparing for marriage!
Jealousy negative ... And positive
See the family expert, Dr. kajjoun, jealousy in the negative:
1 - The mother of her daughter deprived of the joy of enjoying her life just as had happened to her in her adolescence, and dealt with harshly, and the severity of packages.
2 - that did not open her heart and her mind for her daughter Tkashifha with think and feel about a strange mixed feelings, give wisdom and experience of years.
3 - if the mother looking in books and websites on the concept of adolescence and markings, and the best and forbidden and ways to handle them.
Jealousy positive:
1 - that dealt with the daughter innate with Amomtk passion, and lavished love and Hananaka.
2 - The Tejert of some of the characteristics of the human beautiful, or thin the features of her face, and she where grainy phrases - without exaggeration - rather than eager to hear from the first Tareq on the door of her femininity.
3 - while Taatqarbin with exotic ideas, and experiences life simple, and Charkinh hobby, useful Vtattiynha and fun in life, love and friendship.
4 - When you deal with them gently and whenever you speak about the emotional sense, and acted decisively and rationally seen approaching from falling as unworthy.
Why ... And When maternal jealous?
Najla Mahfouz objects on the American Statistical where it says: We can not under any circumstances be regarded as 18% of mothers who feel jealous of their daughters is a general phenomenon; still be limited to individual cases, and that the mother is jealous of her daughter, this is due to several reasons.
* If a father who shows his daughter exaggerated, here you feel as if the mother daughter wife again compete!
* To be a mother is weak personal, do not trust themselves, deprived of the affection and love of her parents at a young age!
* If you felt not being able to keep up with her daughter in beauty and followed the developments of the times.
* To ignorance of the ways of proper education, lack of awareness of the origins of the relationship between the mother and teenage daughter in particular, and is dominated by MDR-TB.
Important tips for the mother:
Put us sociology professor Dr. Hana Marsafy, Ain Shams University.
1 - hedonist eyes follow developments adolescence, Ochariha rewind and Hananaka before Tmarsa the authority Amomtk.
2 - Make your mind the master of the situation in front of everything you say and do teenage daughter, and here it is impossible to feel jealous of them.
3 - harsh treatment of your mother you and you are small does not justify any negative feeling toward your daughter, Vtakchi of this idea.
4 - Being a role model to her, and Earn their friendship, not Taameliha as equals.
5 - derby yourself on creating a balanced relationship between you; not excessive cruelty, nor Follow minutes per say and do, not soft and good trailing up reduce vulnerability.
6 - Beware of the idea that beauty down in front of what your daughter enjoys the beauty and vitality and knowledge.
7 - Follow with her approach openness and disclosure, Vtattiyk secrets and tell you about their problems.
8 - jealousy may cause depression, somatic and psychiatric diseases, such as: asthma, skin diseases,
constant tension ... Perhaps searched for a surrogate mother to them.
9 - not Ottaghda your feelings running and behind innovations fashion, do not ask your daughter more, Vmlabisk to what're wearing something guide alone.
And daughter say:
* Intellectual age difference between you and your mother, etc. This is followed morphological changes and hormonal hit? There Tstvzaha terms remember Bamrha.
* You should note that freedom by more than what they're getting your mother at the same age.
* Do not Taatsouri the opposite that any act of or emotion or reproach word means feeling jealous of its own.
* You that they are more than good wishes for you and happiness and success.
* Each age stage her own world, what befits you of clothing and accessories as a girl and a young woman on the verge of a secondary phase and the university does not suit another age.
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